Plain-words guide
Yes. The first offer is a draft written by people who expect a fraction of recipients to push back. What matters is knowing which items actually move, and asking the way companies are set up to say yes to.
| Item | Why it moves |
|---|---|
| Your last day (the termination date) | Costs the company little; can add weeks of pay and push your health coverage to a month boundary. One of the most granted asks. |
| The non-compete | Narrowing it (fewer months, named competitors only, your actual field) costs the company nothing it usually needs — and can be worth more than cash to you. |
| Your reference | A written neutral-or-positive reference and a named contact is free for them and priceless for your next job search. |
| Stock option deadlines | The standard 90-day exercise window after exit is a plan default, not a law. Extensions are granted; unexercised vested options simply vanish. |
| Bonus treatment | Pro-rata payment for the part of the year you worked is a common compromise when the plan says "must be employed on payout day". |
| Money | It moves — most often when you bring a fact (a defect in the paperwork, a below-formula package, long tenure, a release broader than standard) rather than a feeling. Typical movement is measured in weeks of pay, not multiples. |
| COBRA / health coverage | A few months of subsidized continuation coverage is a standard, cheap-for-them ask. |
In writing (email is fine), once, with all your asks together — drip-feeding requests reads as bad faith. Thank them for the offer, name your deadline awareness ("I am using the consideration period the agreement provides"), list the asks plainly, and give a reason for each that a manager can repeat upward: the formula, the defect, the market practice. Then stop talking. The kit's playbook includes the exact scripts, including how to ask for more time when your clock is short.
Do not threaten a lawsuit you have not had evaluated — it hardens positions and starts a file. Do not bluff a competing offer you cannot document. Do not let your clock expire while waiting for an answer: ask early, and if the deadline nears, get any extension in writing. And do not sign a "standard" agreement with an extra-broad release or an enforceable non-compete without at least checking your state's rules — the whole negotiation sits on top of what the paper actually says.
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